Make plans with yourself and stop positive I mean wishful thinking.

By now you must have been fed some "focus and believe and it will just come". This is really just religion without god and it bothers me. You will never get to where you are going without going somewhere. How can you pick up something that you won't touch? How this stuff really works... You want to make more money. You've always wanted to make more money, but now you can see it in your mind. You write $1,000 on a $10 that you wake up to every morning or keep in your wallet or whatever superstitious little thing you want to do. This is the part that actually matters... What do you actually feel when you think about money in general? Are you being truthful with yourself? Is that really honesty or are you convincing yourself? Whatever you are feeling is your starting point. If you are trying to increase your wealth you shouldn't feel that great when you are first engaging in this activity. Think about something you know you couldn't fail... like writing the alphabet from beginning to end or beating your little brother in a game of cards. Is that the same feeling you get when you think about making more money or is another feeling holding you back... Listen to this... its part of your inner voice. It is feedback you can't get from anyone else. If you want to accomplish what you want to accomplish have a conversation with yourself. Ask questions and listen to the answer. When you have worked out your own issues you can go on your adventure towards abundance actually prepared to receive. When you haven't worked out these issues in your mind and you go on this journey, it's like sailing with your arms tied behind your back. Go with your arms strengthened. This is not an opinion... it is self-evident truth. Are you really prepared? Does your personality, your feelings, and your ability to relate to other people really represent the type of person who is ready to create (not just receive) your desires? Again don't use your opinion to justify your answer. Use relative truth. Not sure what that is? Do your research... what does someone that has the things I want do to get them? What would I already be involved in if this were already true? What opportunities would I be utilizing? Why hasn't this happened already? The key word there is ALREADY. Your current solutions may be an answer but they are not the answer. The answer gets you where you want to go. Be willing to abandon a sinking ship before it takes you with it. Re-evaluate your plans before they go somewhere and allow yourself to recalibrate if you see a shortcut once in a while. Lastly, forget about the outcome. Life is all about process. Your goal will come and go but you are still here. Make your goals what you want to experience, not the experience. If you are doing it alone, only for yourself, or doing it without having fun... you are doing it wrong.

Lessons from a hypnotherapist: Feel Bad for Feeling Bad for Someone Else

Lessons from a hypnotherapist: Feel Bad for Feeling Bad for Someone Else: I was sitting at a coffee shop one day when a complete stranger says to me "psychoanalyze me." I thought, "well... this is ra...

Feel Bad for Feeling Bad for Someone Else

I was sitting at a coffee shop one day when a complete stranger says to me "psychoanalyze me." I thought, "well... this is random but OK!" "What makes you happy?", I asked. "If my sisters are happy, I'm happy", he replies. "Which one of your sisters are sick?" After all... why wouldn't his sisters be happy? "Well, I have 3 sisters, and the oldest one is quadriplegic from the neck down." I noticed his demeanor drop and the smile was now a frown. "What's wrong with that?" I was really just curious... I mean I guess it's kind of obvious but I wanted to play devil's advocate. "I feel bad for her because she can't do the things we do and she misses out on life." When he said he felt bad for her, it triggered disgust in my mind. If I were quadriplegic I would hate that people felt the need to feel bad for me. In fact, knowing that someone feels bad for me really sucks. Oh cool, you are talking to me or helping me because you think I am incompetent, powerless, or a victim. Not because you genuinely think I am a cool person and believe in me and know that this inconvenience in my life is only as inconvenient as I allow it to be and only as painful as other people tell me it should be... "Why are you judging her?" In an attempt to make him aware of the unconscious signals he was sending her. "I am not judging her! I love her! She is my sister." Perfect =) "Ok, lets go with that... tell me about how much you love your sister and how you wouldn't trade her for the world, and how you love all the talks you guys have shared, and how you would do anything you could to see her smile..." His frown turns around as these words remind him of his positive memories with her. Times when they shared happiness. "Yeah, I love my sister. She is amazing to me. I respect her. I couldn't imagine life without her..." Now he's got it. He is in the perfect state. "Imagine that every time you were in her presence that you felt that love that you feel for her now. Imagine if everyone she ever encountered also embraced that feeling of love and appreciation when they were in her presence. How could she possibly feel like she is missing out on anything?" "That's true..." He says with slight amazement... realizing how easy it is to raise his sisters quality of life. Next time you feel yourself feeling bad for someone... think twice. Put yourself in their place and give them what you would need to inspire you... to remind you that "you got this" and it's only as bad as it seems =)